Have you ever felt so stuck, like you are in a situation that you just can not get out of… And…. you’re not feeling comfortable?
This feeling, this situation, we have all been there many times. It is quite often met with emotions such as; anger, fear, upset. The actions that we will see are; avoidance, blaming, put-downs, problem-solving, silence, false bravado, lying.
It is in these situations that sometimes we can be guided to finding the right path, the new path, the different path, but we need to be prepared to step back. It is this stepping back that is quite often the hardest part, but it is the most important. It doesn’t mean the other has ‘won’, ‘is better than’, it means that we are willing to see what is triggering our own reactions and then we can decide how we will act, respond, plan and feel.
Stepping back means we can take control of the situation and make rational decisions, rather than the situation take control of us.
If we could all consider this option of ‘Stepping Back’ many relationships, marriages, would be better off, people wouldn’t stay in jobs that they don’t like where they are not treated well for the work they do, and quite possibly, many children would learn to make decisions on their own and therefore become adults that make better decisions, and organisations would be less reactive and consider long-term planning rather than quick fixes.
If you have any queries do not hesitate to contact me on masteryofdoing@gmail.com
Bronwyn
